Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy in San Diego
Are you feeling distressed in your relationship?
Are you feeling stuck in your relationship, and hoping that couples counseling will help you heal and reconnect? Perhaps you feel:
- Frustrated by having the same conversations & arguments
- Worried you are growing apart
- Wondering if you can work through significant differences
- Emotionally stuck, unfulfilled, or invalidated
- Lacking emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy
- Hoping to work through an impasse
Relationship challenges are part of the growth process
Whether you are married or in a committed relationship, even the happiest, healthiest couples run into challenges at some point. You do not have to be in crisis in order to benefit from couples therapy. You and your partner may simply feel disconnected.
Life changes may be affecting your relationship or intimacy. Perhaps you are in the midst of a crisis due to trauma, an act of betrayal, or some other form of emotional wounding that threatens your relationship.
Whatever you are going through, working with a therapist can offer you the insight and tools needed to heal yourselves as individuals while repairing your relationship and growing as a couple.
We often need support to be effective in our relationships
We learn how to be in relationship from our earliest relationships, from observing our parents, and from the ups and downs of our previous relationships. This can make it difficult to know how to engage when we encounter a major problem.
When we do run into challenges in our relationships, couples therapy can bring insight. Working with a couples counselor can help you learn to communicate, navigate conflict, and simply be at peace with each other.
Couples counseling can heal and deepen your relationship in powerful ways
We often turn to our friends and families when looking for support with our relationships. However, sometimes the people who love us most also have natural biases that can compromise even the best advice.
Working with a couples counselor helps provide an objective perspective to the process. Your therapist can help you work through issues and reduce reactivity. Couples therapy provides you with a safe, neutral space where you can fully express yourself, be heard, and discover what you need to be happier and more fulfilled.
Personalized couples therapy sessions
Couples counseling sessions are tailored to your needs and equip you with skills and insight that can enable you to better communicate, overcome conflict, and empathize with each other. And as you work together, you’ll grow as individuals, restore your intimate connection, and become more like the couple you want to be.
To get to the root of what is creating discord or tension, we will first want to sit down and discuss a few things: What are your primary concerns? When did these issues become a problem and what has been the impact? In what ways are you hoping counseling will help your marriage or relationship?
Once we get to the core of what’s really going on, we can start creating a strategy for repairing your relationship and reconnecting with your partner. Some of the things we may work on could include:
- Improving communication, rebuilding trust, and increasing intimacy.
- Creating a shared sense of empathy, respect, and compassion.
- Healing past relational wounds, such as betrayal, rejection, or abuse.
- Overcoming conflict without being defensive, critical, or resentful.
- Navigating the distractions of work, finances, parenting, and technology.
How we help
Our unique 3- Stage Create Wellbeing Model care for couples counseling is designed to:
CALM the distress in your relationship
ENGAGE you as a couple to resolve underlying issues
INTEGRATE the healing into your lives together
Core modalities integrated:
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Gottman Couples Therapy
Perhaps you’re considering couples counseling but still have concerns…
Is couples counseling effective?
Working with someone who has no agenda other than helping you repair your relationship and feel better about your future can be immensely empowering. The awareness and skills you gain from therapy can help you overcome future problems on your own, potentially safeguarding your relationships on every level.
Is it worth the cost to work with a couples therapist?
Think about it like this: therapy is a temporary investment in your overall well-being that can last a lifetime. Knowing yourself, how your partner works, and what you need to be happy is invaluable—and that’s what couples therapy can facilitate. Rather than just hoping things will get better on their own, you can make real changes that have an enduring impact on yourselves and your relationship.
